2003-08-13 11:03:35 ET
I think my Melt-o-meter just burst that muthafuckin mercury through the rizzoof! I've been reduced to a puddle!
Man o man; how can I respond to that? Much like peeing in your pants, YOU ARE THE COOLEST! But seriously...I am extremely flattered/honored/touched and though I have always thought it to be nerdy to form relationships via a synthetic interface such as a computer...well shit, call me a nerd because I consider you MY FRIEND! Mushy is awesome, sweet talk is awesome, it's all awesome. You are a huge reason I use sk.net :D
Why can't their be hugs up in this bizznatch?!? They've got to invent synthetic hugs. Actually, they probabley have, haven't they? Along with synthetic blow jobs. Hahahaa; sickos.
We need to talk is the bottom line here, Senor Shizznizzle. You'e brought up MAD topic. I suppose I could go on here on your page and engraciate everyone with my wise opinions, ha ha.
I 100% agree with your assesment of men. I think that I have probably told you that like every single time you have brought it up. The fact that YOU as a man can and do address this not only confirms the deductions I have made on my own, but causes even MORE distress to this knowledge because it's probabley TRUER THAN I KNOW!
Or I should say 'more true" since 'truer' isn't really a word...but then again, can I spell? Do I use correct grammer? Can it be proven that English is in fact my first language by reading the crap I write? SO fuck it, man! TRUER!
So then, the question you have posed to myself is: how can change be brought about?
I think the way American society has addressed the issue of women in the modern world has caused a few varying outcomes:
1. minimal progress in a positive direction
2. made feminism a joke/farce not to be taken seriously
3. equated women's issues with militant, anti-male sentiment
4. has enabled certain groups in power to use inconsequential and ineffectual minor consessions that they have given to women as a group as 'evidence' of their support of equality between the sexes
5. has caused the media, which is owned by all these male dominated corperations wanting to keep their power balance the way it damn well is, to manipulate information to continuously keep the issue ridiculous enough to stay at bay
I think it is negligent for anyone and everyone to think, or worse, believe, that the feminist movment started back in the 1920's with women's sufferage has progressed much beyond basic consessions of letting us vote, own property, and get divorces.
(I know women have more rights that that, so anyone who wants to get uppity about it can back da fuck up!)
ALL that being said, it would seem to me that, thusly, the change needs to come from the outside in. Heterosexual men need to want to change because they feel the change around them. It's a rarety that people change deeply rooted socialized behaviors because they 'realize how wrong those behaviors are' on their own. It's also not going to do any good to hear it coming from a woman, when it comes down to it. A dude knows that a woman has interests invested. What hetero guys don't realize is....
SO DO THEY
If men cut that 'rapist mentality' shit out, MAN, can you imagine the change that would occur? World wide change!
But for real, the change would have to come from the outside in. Dudes are going to have to educate other dudes. Somehow, Senor Daniel, you were bestowed with the precious gift of the mind that you have. I think, no wait, I KNOW you are the second hetero man I ever ever known to feel and realize the things you do about the relationship between men and women.
But this is the way the evoluditory process works! Evolution happens in pockets, in small cells, and these cells grow with the right procreation and guidence.
So the bottom line is man, besides teaching your bro's a thing or two....you've gots to be havin' some male chiluns.
GO MAKE BABIES!
But seriously. Even thinking about it, writing about it, talking about it...shows that things are going in the right direction. If you can get even one of your dudes to really get what you are saying and feel it too, than you have done splendedly. There is only so much you can do to change a social norm that crosses almost every single intercontinental boundry, every religon, every social construction. That fact that you are doing anything is peaches.
Oh, and PS: Can you and your chica come move out to NYC, because for real, I wish we could chill in real life. Fuckin' geography; it keeps me down just like the MAN. I think geography and the man are in cahoots.
Calling me baby is all good as long as I can call you Daddy-o.
You know what? I just watched Rebel Without a Cause. Every dude should be like James Dean in that movie. In fact, every dude should be James Dean.
Sweet dreams, Mr. Daniel DeFunkt. Sweet dreams everybody. Sweeeeeeet Dreeeeeams, Babe-ah! (Roy Orbison was NOT attractive, but his voice sure as the dickens was).