Maybe crows also cry.
2006-09-25 20:42:44 ET

After a lot of anguish and mental tortures, I’m now trying to put pieces together in my head. I was in love, I did. But now I’m trying to get out of that feeling.

As I mentioned in past entries, I was becoming obsessed with one girl, Pamela, whom I liked a lot. I have now to understand that perhaps she just has a different use for words than the use I have. I mean, she’s very sociable, has lots of friends, and seems to be quite cheerful, thus she has no problem while saying “I like you” or “love you” to her friends. Something that I’m not used at all.

What first called my attention of her was that she said she cut herself on her wrists and arms when she’s depressed or sad or angry, and also because of often having a tough character (she claimed have being in fist fights with other girls and constantly getting n trouble with her parents), also that occasionally goes with some therapist. That is, she had a lot of crazy-ness involved that I’m attracted of women. Then when we spent time chatting we got along so well that the confusion is what severed me.

I don’t know what these words could mean for anyone else that by chance is reading this, or what meant for her, when she said “Ulises, I don’t have enough words to tell you how much I like you”, I couldn’t resist it. I fell.

When she came to visit me a few days ago, with her orchestra, I noticed that she mainly treated me more of a big-brother-friend like... and that was not really the main problem, but that she actually had a crush... but for another person. A friend of mine.
I knew she liked him when I first met her, and I had no problem, but she slowly quit talking about him and started talking more to me than him. Thus it was how I thought she was forgetting him and starting to like me more. What kind of girl sends you near 30 messages to your cellphone on one day? I thought that at first, but I don’t know, maybe I was just exited that someone cared for me once in my life; but maybe not. Maybe as I just stated at the beginning, she’s very social, she has lots of friends, maybe she also sends lost of messages to all their friends everyday, and tell them “she likes them”... yes... perhaps that’s it. I don’t know much of people, I’m not successfully social as many other people, thus I don’t know if that’s what normal people do.

In the 2 days she stayed her, all her friends were joking or commenting about her and her crush on jimmy, my friend. So I couldn’t be as much as exited like them but neither let them see disappointed about it. I feel guilt of also trying to play along with them,... but I was dying on the inside.
When they left, one day after, I kept thinking of all this all day long. And it had been years since I last cried. Now somehow, those tears washed something on my mind, and I feel like I should get back to darkness, to get off that fancy cloud and return to be the ugly beast I really am. What I try to say, is that now I shouldn’t let be tricked with those affection words when someone ever tells them to me again (if ever). I shall be more cold and not trust that easily then. I have learned that there are people that just throw those words so easily.

Along with my tears, my second punishment to help me get over this, was cutting myself with a razor blade too, on my right arm, I wrote just “pam”, as perhaps the last intent of wondering what I once felt for her.
I know I will eventually talk to her again soon, but I’m afraid she might not like this new beast. I don’t know what will happen. Sometimes I think everything would be easier without me.

2006-09-25 23:05:30 ET

Ulises, girls are evil and very very hard to even begin to understand them. I have found through my years of being around other girls that there aren't very many out there that are truly sincere. It will take you to truly be in love with someone to actually even understand just a little bit of the games that are played and then to break up. I have learned so very much during and after the guy I dated for three years. It's heartbreaking and I still am sad. But, just remember if this girl actually does like this so called "beast" she sees, it's probably because you're acting like you don't want her or playing hard to get, so she might try to mess with your mind more. Stay strong.

2006-09-26 08:24:56 ET

She's right, girls are hard and crazy.
But don't hurt yourself because of one, she's not worth it. Though you and I both know I don't have much place to tell you not to cut.. at least keep it clean and bandaged for me, ok? You have a beautiful heart and you will find someone special enough one day. There might just be some unworthy people first.
And if she doesn't like the beast in you, she isn't good enough anyways. Friends and lovers love all of you, even the parts that you hate.

2006-10-01 19:31:38 ET

Thanks both. I shall learn from your advices better than anyone else. I'm slightly tring to recover from this and to be more careful.

2006-10-02 07:13:23 ET

No problem Malk. You're a good guy. It can be hard to stop it, or even slow it. It took me years.. and even now, I sometimes have a moment of weakness. It's an addiction as bad as anything else. Just remember that it will end one day. And when it does, check out mederma. Works great.

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