Aunt Rita
2005-11-09 20:13:45 ET

My Father has two older sisters. One lies comotose in the hospital tonight. It's her fault. She's been bent on self disruction as long as I can remember. She is an alchoholic. She has been on countless antidepressants. She has spent much of her life trying to fix herself and only changing the outside... Divorces, plastic sugery, change of location, changing careers.
My parents raised the younger of her two children. She was very mean and hurtful. She had alianated her children so much that she had not been invited to her own daughter's wedding. She wasn't invited to mine either because my mom would rather have my cousins there than Rita.

She lived near us in Tahoe for a while... I spent nights at her house taking care of her after her plastic sugeries or anxiety attacks. Her medication never seemed to help.

She was one of the most scariest hurtful people I know.. Yet she is family and it kills me to think of her lying in a hospital with liver failure. The doctor isn't sure if she'll make it through the night. She could last another couple of weeks, there isn't any hope after your liver has shut down.


2005-11-09 20:46:43 ET

those are the toughest times. you never know how to react. if it were someone you were much closer with, you'd know what to do. i'm sorry that you have to go through this. best wishes.

2005-11-10 03:03:56 ET

sounds like hope was lost long ago

2005-11-10 08:48:21 ET

She lasted through the night. I am getting married a week from Saturday. With my school schedule and wedding I cannot go north before december. I would like to see her before it's over. It doesn't seem likely.
The hugest debate this morning is what to tell my grandmother. My Grandma is not really with it. She is very confused most of the time and has lots of trouble understanding what is going on around her. We have parts of the Family who say she should know and others who feel she should not be told because she wouldn't be able to handle the news. I personally feel that reguardless of mental state, Rita is her daughter and it is not right to withhold such serious information.

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