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2003-10-15 12:18:53 ET
Alright, to preface my little rant, i'll explain what spurned it.
Last night a friend who moved to Az (Jordan), and I haven't seen in a year, was supposed to come over and hang out.
To make a long story short, hours later he shows up with an acquaintance/semi-friend of mine (Ben) and we go to the Pub for a couple of Pints. I'm not a drinker in the first place, plus I spend money i can't afford, to celebrate his visit. I'm ignored the whole time there and to the walk back to Ben's, so i turn and go home.
They can't understand why i felt put out. I finally talked to one of them, and when i said i felt like a third wheel....
Ok, now we're up to my rant about the stupid things people (and I find myself not totally without blame) say.
when i said i went home because i felt like a third wheel, he said, of course "dude, that was never the intention".
No shit
how many times do we say things like that? "never meant to upset you."; "never meant to make you feel put out"; "i never set out to cheat on you"; "didn't mean to drop that anvil on your foot"......
No shit
Does anyone really wake up one morning and go "you know, I'm going to hurt my friend's feelings" or "i think my goal today is to cheat on my spouse" or even "gee, wouldn't it be swell to make so-and-so feel like a third wheel?"
For some odd reason, we feel that stating the blatantly obvious is some form of excuse. that it absolves us in some way (who knows, maybe for the sheer fact of showing our own stupidity).
I have found that we say these things, not because we find them the right thing to say, or because we can't do any better, but out of sheer habit.
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YOUR MISSION (if you chose to accept it):
If not break free, at least try to be able to observe and analyze those daily habits in your life that keep you from thinking and instead react mechanically.
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I'd love to hear any other insights, or results that you might have. Or not... I know this involves that nasty and offensive "E-word", Effort.
another pointless rant, by your humble narrator.
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