marriage?

bettieworshiper 2003-12-23 20:46:21 ET what is with these people my age getting married? Am I just really afraid of commitment? I think my firends make a great couple, but doesn't marriage come after years and years of working on a relationship? I will not not not be critical. Or should I? Why am I always surprised to find out people are serious about marriage so young? is this just me? ------- edit: I thought about this alot, and they have my blessing they are perfect for each other in every way and they both rock my socks hard cor3

fakeambition 2003-12-23 20:47:42 ET i think its kinda crazy, but if they are in love, then why not. it always makes me feel old when i realize i have friends that are married, friends that have babies and friends with hair transplants.

DJKhaosGott 2003-12-23 20:48:36 ET well when i worked at the casino, everyone was in a serious relationship but me. in the same year, 2 couple got married, 1 of which was engaged for 3 years, the other for 1 year.

InsertNameHere 2003-12-23 20:49:22 ET i couldn't do it. then again, i'm past your age, around typical marriage age now, kinda. but it still seems insanely early, even now. i don't understand it.

DJKhaosGott 2003-12-23 20:50:02 ET if i had the right woman i'd get married right now. and i'm only 22. but it probably won't happen for me until i'm 25-30

Lokichilde 2003-12-23 21:09:50 ET w3rd. Fuck settling down that early.

gonzophysicist 2003-12-23 21:43:32 ET I don't belive in marriage. I see no point other than legalities and shit like that. The only reason my parents got married was an exuse to throw a party and have a good time.

analog sky 2003-12-23 21:44:00 ET I feel the same about not wanting to be married until I'm older. I have a friend who's getting married in a few months. He's my age, 23, but I still think he's too young.

DJKhaosGott 2003-12-23 21:45:47 ET depends, how long has he dated the woman. after 20 age doesn't mean shit. at that point it's about maturity level.

analog sky 2003-12-23 21:48:00 ET he's dated her for about a year and a half. I'm avoiding the whole family thing until I'm in the late 20's, so I'm really biased.

DJKhaosGott 2003-12-23 21:49:46 ET that's not bad, almost 2 years, that's about the time i would propose to a woman.

analog sky 2003-12-23 21:50:41 ET if I meet the right person, I'd probably do the same :-/ kids are a whole other story....

DJKhaosGott 2003-12-23 21:52:59 ET i could have kids right now and i'd be happy.

bettieworshiper 2003-12-23 21:55:33 ET I personally have no intention of getting married..having kids is much more important to me....if I do love someone that much and I do get married then it happens....if not then no biggie...I am young yet, my attitude will probably change

DJKhaosGott 2003-12-23 21:56:52 ET indeed. my attitude towards the subject has changed drastically from when i was younger.

Bugsy 2003-12-23 22:31:45 ET I can't wait to get married. I'm 23. BUT--I also know I am nowhere near ready. Hell, I don't have a groom yet. ;) But even if I did, I know it's not something I'm ready for at this point. My parents have been married over 30 years--most of their lives; or as my mom puts it, if she had killed him off in the beginning, she'd be out by now--and I watched their relationship work my whole life. It IS work, and it has ups and downs. But I also saw unconditional love there, which exists to this day. And I learned that when you are ready, you just know.

TheKilted 2003-12-24 11:35:53 ET I so want to start a family right now, but I'm not in a stable job yet,... Bugs, I'll be your groom. Oh, and Bettie, I've thought about this on the drive up: Boy #1: Ditch, he's emotionless so it won't effect him...and if it does, CONGRATS! You cured him. Boy #2: You don't want to deal with that My solution, go with Girl #1....or I'll be your 4th place :-p

rudeboy 2003-12-24 11:43:51 ET No way! I got dibs on Bugs!

Bugsy 2003-12-24 11:44:40 ET Boys, boy! You are ALL in the harem, kay?

bettieworshiper 2003-12-24 11:49:32 ET well...that is the obvious choice... I think I am not going to try anymore and just see what happens, I was also thinking about it, and I am sick of this promiscuous shit.

DJKhaosGott 2003-12-24 11:50:51 ET heh, yea it gets boring. it was fun when i was younger but now i wanna settle down.

TheKilted 2003-12-24 11:58:08 ET I don't know what promiscuous shit is like. Cause the way my mind works...and the way my nuts work. I think you only know about that...so shush and I won't inspect the undies

bettieworshiper 2003-12-24 12:25:08 ET okay I won't tell and you don't look...it's a deal

TheKilted 2003-12-24 12:30:06 ET Crap! I just realized, I didn't collect my hour

bettieworshiper 2003-12-24 12:33:47 ET haha...no you didn't! I was wondering when you would figure that out. WeLL I will see you in a week so be prepared ;)

Lokichilde 2003-12-24 12:34:25 ET :O

Rix 2003-12-25 00:47:17 ET Is this just you? NO. I think they're nuts (all of them, not just the two you're referring to). NUTS. But then, I'm anti-marriage in general. But especially for any individulas under the age of 25. Unless one needs citizenship or something. ESPECIALLY if they haven't even known eachother for a year. But who knows. Some people amazingly make it work. Also, I consider marriage to be a ridiculous tradition. Marriage was originally invented to transfer ownership of the woman from the father to the groom. Fuck that, dude. NOBODY OWNS ME, OR EVER WILL. And it's just paperwork. Paperwork doesn't prove love, acts of love and kindness do. Not that I am against ANYONE getting married. It's just not for me. And here, here on the promiscuity. And the day you hear ME say that, you know something's up. :-\

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