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2015-03-14 09:59:13 ET
thanks to the both of you. i have never been in this situation before and i didn't want to be obtuse to the way things are usually done. i had never met any poly people before, let alone been romantically involved with one, and it came as a shock to me. i agree that candid transparency in any scenario like this is the best way to go about things, but it's a little late for that now for me, unfortunately.
a short summary: a guy i have been seeing off and on for months and have exchanged "i love yous" with (ILY as more than a friend, but not IN love) for a while now ended up getting drunk and sleeping with his ex girlfriend, and told me that due to the circumstances, aka her living with him temporarily because otherwise she'd be homeless, it's unlikely that he'll stop sleeping with her. when he tried to explain that having her around again evoked poly feelings that had started to subside as he spent more time with me, and that he still loves me despite what he has done/is going to do, i was/am still at a loss for words.
all i can do is take one day at a time, i guess. but thanks again for your input. i am trying to learn and grow through this experience and if all i get out of it is an appreciation for ways of life other than the one i live, i suppose i can't count it as a total loss. |
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