turboskanker 2025-01-23 16:41:16 ET some prejudiced-against-my-feminine-ass-self Angry Old White Male™ lunatic who happens to live on the same floor of my apartment building literally came to my apartment and started yelling at me and punched me in the face a couple days ago. so now i have a fancy black eye - something i don't even recall if i've ever had before in my life. between the day it happened and tomorrow (since i only have so much time / bandwidth in my present-day life to deal with this level of retardation, and fortunately a neighbor friend who is much bigger than either me or him gave him a talking to and assured me he won't try anything again) i've been / will continue to be calling various legal / LGBTQwhatever™ / victims rights orgs to figure out what i can do legally, particularly to go after my absolutely negligent and awful apartment management who themselves are active participants in enabling the events that led up to this happening and refusing to take any reasonable actions after it happened as well. but i'm not going to get into all of that cause this is SK it's not worth the time to type it all out. i'm not a betting man but, given how this guy generally acts and how he's acted towards me and in general at other times we've had brief passings in the building before, i would absolutely bet any amount of money he's also a biden / harris voter. yay america.

spazztech 2025-01-24 13:28:04 ET holy shit I'm sorry to hear about that. Is he unhinged or just a violent asshole? What kind of self-defense tools are available to you?

turboskanker 2025-01-25 15:50:56 ET it would seem a bit of both - though he definitely targeted me because he's the type who wanted to be a "tough guy" and, beyond his obvious prejudice problems, i'm clearly the person he read as someone he could assault and get away with it - he started backing off while continuing to yell insults and threats like a petulent child as soon as my neighbor came out to intervene and i was yelling at him that i wouldn't hesitate to sue his ass. he soon shut up and went back to his room where my neighbor (who's bigger than either one of us) gave him a further talking-to and has assured me he won't fuck with me again, which i believe, but i'm still going to pursue whatever legal avenues i can against both him and the building management - though mostly trying to pass off all the responsibility onto the latter because this is the latest in a years-long-line of things that are absolutely down to their negligence and ineptitude. the fucking security cameras in the building aren't even working thanks to them, amongst other things. part of the problem (re: self-defense) was this happened very early in the morning not particularly long after i woke up so i wasn't exactly in active-thinking mode, or even expecting it to be him at my door or expecting him to do anything violent other than just yell like a fuckhead til i closed the door on him. was definitely a surprise. my kid's aluminum baseball bat literally sits right inside the entrance to our apartment. after the fact of course i thought how it maybe could have turned out differently if i had been brandishing that though honestly with how completely unhinged and emotionally stunted this guy's entire behavior towards me has been, it's tough for me to actually ascertain if that would have actually deterred him or not. he acted like a flat-out lunatic and it was clear based on his behavior after the fact that his own self-preservation wasn't at all factored into how he approached the situation. you know, not that if it had been later in the day and i was more cognitively with it, i wouldn't have gladly grabbed that bat and considered breaking his fucking knees with it in self-defense after he punched me, regardless. though my personal inclination is to do my best be a pacifist unless it's absolutely necessary. anyway, the week otherwise hasn't really gone as i thought it would (kid got sick yesterday and had to stay home from school) so i likely won't be arsed to call the various legal / victims services / etc numbers i have til monday or tuesday just cause the beginning of the week is always unpredictable for me as well. but i'll definitely be pursuing what i can against both him and the building management after this. also the fuckhead let out that he's somehow lived in this building for 25 years which also means he's lived in san francisco for at least that long (if not longer i would guess given his age) which - how in the fuck he's managed that while clearly being anti-atypical-gender-persuasion is beyond me. though one of the numbers i have in my notes is for CCOP aka castro community on patrol - basically the SF gay bear vigilante justice group that protects people like me from people like him - so this could turn into a "fuck around and find out" situation for him really quick, to say the least.

You Dont Know Jake 2025-01-25 16:42:47 ET That sucks. ...have you called the cops yet? You need to get them to come and document while you still have bruises and obvious marks. If you have any desire to sue, get a medical provider to check it out and document it as well.

You Dont Know Jake 2025-01-25 16:49:03 ET More specifically: you should contact the police and make a report. Then you should take the report to the courts and file for a restraining order. You should also self-document photos of all injuries. And e-mail yourself a write-up of what happened with every detail you can remember. A lawyer or advocacy group will be able to use this stuff as ammo.

turboskanker 2025-02-01 16:57:50 ET appreciate the comments and concern i'm actually fairly well versed in all of this stuff after dealing with my perpetually abusive ex wife in more than one city and ultimately going to court in SF for custody etc after also needing a restraining order against another equally abusive friend of her's. also in the case of san francisco, there are some very unique laws comparatively to the rest of the US or even the rest of the state of california, pertaining to tenants rights and landlord / building management responsibilities. in this case, as such, after consulting with a few legal aid folks (and having a long list of others that i'll likely get around to contacting next week) my main interest is just going after the building management, for this and a laundry list of other failings and problems they've had, with teeth, and i can get a free lawyer from the city if needed as well. given that, at least so far as SF laws are concerned, this is squarely the building management's problem and responsibility, and also given the fact that my neighbor who's bigger than either me or the other guy gave him enough of a talking to that i'm confident he won't try anything again - i haven't even seen the guy since this happened - i won't be filing a police report unless and until i feel like i absolutely have to for some reason, though thus far it seems likely that i don't and it's a much better angle to pressure the building management to handle this - and that - as applicable, and potentially sue their asses into oblivion for this and a laundry list of related problems that have led to it. they've directly violated one law in particular that SF has just by allowing this to happen and refusing to respond or take responsibility. so, we'll see how this progresses. also in terms of just where i'm at in my own life growth, a lot of therapy and reiki, and with everything else i'm dealing with these days, i've made a conscious choice to do my best to not allow things that are squarely other peoples' problems - even in circumstances such as this - to take up any significant amount of real estate in my time or life, or derail the other priorities i continue to set for myself and my life generally speaking, so i am more or less treating this as follows: i will do what i need to to ensure this is handled and taken care of, but i won't be in a hurry about it beyond what and where i feel is merited, and i won't let this situation get in the way of anything else i'm doing with my life presently or my own personal priorities, time, and energy either. i need to keep focused on bettering my own life and self - i already spent years draining my time and energy into a psychotic moron that was my ex wife and the aftermath thereof. i don't have the time of day or the energy to do that with this idiot, or any other such idiot going forward, beyond ensuring that others who are in the position to handle it do their job instead. and fortunately my neighbor intervening has mitigated things otherwise. i'm just trying to stay focused on maintaining my own set of priorities, finding steady income again so i can just fucking move to a better place, and in addition to that, when and where i have time, i will continue to pursue legal action against this building management company and absolutely take them to the woodshed if i need to, with a lawyer and other outside help, even if it doesn't fully happen until i'm not living here anymore. so yeah we'll see how things go in regards to all of that. i'm still a single parent in the meantime. this past week my kid got sick and had to stay home from school, then had an extra day off for lunar new year, and i had a long overdue massage & reiki appointment. i didn't have time for dealing any further this shit and that's ok. we'll see what i have time for next week. i'm avoiding the cops unless i absolutely have to as, generally speaking in my life, dealing with the police directly when it comes to this stuff has been nothing but a massive timesink and less-than-helpful at best. at any rate, here's to hoping the rest of my life keeps improving going into this year and, as such, i'll have a little more energy and bandwidth to keep pursuing legal action against this stupid building - and if that guy gets evicted in the process (and, preferably, somehow gets the mental help he clearly needs) that would just be a bonus for the rest of society that he may choose to act this way towards before he dies of old age.

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