2002-10-11 09:12:17 ET
Good thing I'm wearing my asbestos coat today. ;)
>and what is wrong with dating someone outside of your usual aesthetic tastes etc? i think i am comfortable enough with myself and what i like to be able to handle someone trying to get me to 'broaden my horizons'.
That's fine. Broadening one's horizons is one thing, Whereas forcing a change of aesthetic on someone is another. The problem comes when someone tries to change you into something you're not. I always thought that the point of dating someone was that you liked that person for who they are, not that you wanted to mold that person into someone else. If you want that, you should date someone with no persoality to begin with, so that it's easier to create something new from them. You already have plenty of personality, and there's no reason to change it.
>and thanks for pointing out the journal repeats... i had the gut feeling that i didnt have anything really significant to say at all on my sknet journal... i should always listen to my gut and i shouldnt have posted. or maybe i should have just posted the quiz results... those are safe for the whole family to read...
I'm not saying that it's not ok to repeat things in your journal... it's your journal, you're allowed to say whatever you like! Hell, half of my journal entries boil down to: "I'm working on music, I'm tired, I'm drinking Pepsi and i'm having girl trouble." There, I never have to post again! However, you've said in the past that these are changes you wish to make, and I said that I would help you. All I have tried to do here is remind you that you're falling back into a pattern you wanted to get out of.
>(and dont think you can get away with this shit just by making a carbon molecule analogy... if i only wanted to be around people with exactly my opinion on everything i would hang out with you all the time!
And you'd be happier, more productive, artistically fulfilled and know Reason inside and out. But you're still caught up in the things that I've left behind, and I can do nothing but accept that. Personally, I think you're wasting your time, just like when I was your age I was wasting mine, but you have to make your own mistakes; god knows I've made mine.
Look, I don't share your opinion on EVERYTHING, if I did, we wouldn't be having this or our other occasional disagreements. What we share is an aesthetic, which in my mind is much more important that the flavor of the weak's foolish attempts to change you. Your entitled to do what you want... I'm entitled to remind you when you're betraying yourself. I think that's fair.