correspondence

2007-07-09 20:15:55 ET I wrote this letter to a friend of mine and I thought I would repost it here. I feel melodramatic. thats ok. Dear Alessandro- I am doing so-so. I think i might take defeatest attitudes about things so when I do defeat myself or do things I know are possible but wish would not happen I can just feel vindicated. But what kind of vindication is that? Predicting your life will take a turn for the momentary bad or worse and then it does. Conference politically was amazing. Emotionally it was extremely difficult for me. Adam and I never talked about our lame break up. I broke up with Alex because I convinced myself he had slept with someone else. Hopefully this is the real end. As much as I love him and at times miss being intimate with him our relationship is hell. Neither of us can make up our minds. He ignores problems until I explode. Now I am honestly having a hard time living with him, which is like no shit right? I have never had to deal with something so solutionless in my life. Alex is a crucial part of my life and is so fully integrated into my life that even though I feel it would be best to cut him out of my life completely there is no way that is possible. Instead I am stuck living with him because neither one of us can afford to move out. This will not destroy me and I will get through it. It will be ok, but right now it's not. I walk around my own house avoiding reality. I can't talk to him about it because what is there to say. We had a long talk when we got back from Chicago where I proceded to say that I wanted to at least try to have a healthy relationship because I felt like it might, somehow, be worth it. Nevermind the evidence to the contrary. It is true that we never really tried, but how could we? The truth is that I do not want to be with him, but for the past two years as rocky as it has been I have always fallen back on that. Even when I felt emotionally drained by it all I could always cuddle him and it felt ok for an hour or two. Now thats gone and I feel like I'm starving. Don't worry this is not the end of the world for me by any means. I do have a life outside of him and that helps alot, but it doesn't stop it from being hard. I have to tough it out because it's the only thing I can do. Long answer to a short question, huh? The political period is pretty amazing I have met so many people in the last couple of months who were totally amazing. I have two great folks I am talking to right now that are (hopefully) coming to the Dave Z event. School, school, school. That question has been haunting me since conference as well. Brian(you know the orange and black one) gave me a pretty intense piece of his mind about how wrong he thought I was to leave school and do this apprenticeship. I would like to say a few things about that. 1-I didn't leave school because I wanted too. I was not doing very well and I left school with maybe 18 units after a year and a half. I was working because I felt like I had to despite my mothers opinion contrary. If she wanted/could give me enough money to comfortably live then it would be a different story but it's not. 2-I did not have any intention of going back anytime soon even before I applied for this. 3-If I hadn't done this now I might have done it later. 4-it's hard work, and not very intellectualy stimulating but I could make enough money to put myself through school in 8 to 10 years. I am 20, thats hella time. 5-If I went back to school now I cannot gaurantee that I would not leave again. I would not be going to state. City is way out of the way. I would have to get a lower paying job again and work less hours putting myself in the same place as before. I am a very smart young woman, but I do not feel like I am wasting myself. This job is not a dead end. A college degree does not gaurantee me a better future. That has not been true for some time now and I doubt it will be true anytime soon the way things are looking. Those two things- my broken heart and evaluation of my decision have consumed much of my thinking time these days. Like I said, it will get better and this will not kill me. I care about you very much. I do miss you. Where did you move? You postponed your plans for Ireland? Tell me whats been eating you. I hope we can get together soon. -camille 1 comment

rikki

2007-07-07 07:39:42 ET okay- so rix</rix> claimed she would "forcibly grumble from a distance" If I did not update this thing. so here goes. I am working as a sheet metal apprentice at a job site building a lab for a UC. Sheet metal is vetalation and heating systems for everyone who is like "sheet metal??...." It's some other stuff too but mostly thats what I will be doing, installing or fabricating (bending mostly) duct work. I like it, it's nice to have steady hours and a real weekend. It's also just a job really and since I am the lowest paid person on the crew right now I get to do alot of shit work. at any rate, I am not going back to school any time soon. I will update more later. 1 comment

again, again

2006-11-12 09:23:38 ET So I think I am going to go to local union 104 (sheet metal workers union) and pick up an application, Fill it out and hopefully start an apprenticeship. This is scary but I want to do it and I am going too. This means several thing. -NO more dying my hiar crazy ass colors that I love. -NO more piercings in my face. -NO more eating badly. -That I have to get in shape so I can do the work that is required of me. I know that me being a woman will make it harder for me to get work. But fucking a will I be making alot more than I do at my two or three jobs that I have now. I have to get tough and strong so I can potentialy stand up for myself in the event of sexist fuck picking on me. I can do this. 6 comments

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